So today we were at an even for my 12 year old daughter, my wife and my daughter left early because they had to do make up and hair, I went later by myself, as we sat next to each other she always answered my questions as if I was annoying her, and when the event was done she went upstairs and left me, she avoids me and it kills me, but I have to be smart and not fall back to my old ways where I would get mad and make a big deal out of it, I swear the hardest thing to accomplish is being patient, but she is worth it, I find myself enjoying my changes which is a very good sign because if I like my changes it means they are genuine, this weekend was hard but I think I handled very well.
I also reached out to my brother in law and his wife to see if they wanted to do lunch at our house, something I would of never done before, and it was because I wanted to hang out with them not because of what my wife would think, I’m proud of myself for doing that, it was scary but I was ok with whatever answer I got, at the end they couldn’t get together but that’s OK, I started to pave the way.
I want to be part of our family, I want my mother inlaw to feel comfortable coming to our place uninvited if that’s what she wants to do, even of it drives my wife crazy, I don’t know if that was because of me or that was her, it doesn’t matter, the future looks different.